Playing the Game

So, I'm engaged and thus have had to start planning a wedding... or rather everything else...
One thing I've been struck by is how many things (bouquets, dresses, cake, reception decorations, pictures, etc) are really all about playing the game... As in I'm not sure I actually care about having a bouquet and yet I feel some obligation to do so. Most of this stuff I don't care about (I wasn't one of the girls that dreamed up and planned my wedding when I was 12) but I do care about the people that will be coming and I want to be able to make things for them convenient.... But even the reception seems a little sad to me, because all these people I care about are planning on coming and yet I probably won't have the time to actually spend with them...
I guess what I've realized the most though is even though I may think some of the things are silly and almost unnecessary I also have a desire to play by the rules... I might not be looking forward to the pictures and yet I'm planning on doing them (not the ones by myself though!). I think I want to play by the rules for a couple of reasons. First, there is a legitimate reason for a lot of it (aka receptions are not just for the couple but for the families). Second, I guess I don't really want to make some sort of rebel statement. I'd rather not rock the boat...